December is such a weird month for me. It’s always been full of new beginnings and sometimes, terrifying endings. I know that the holidays bring out a lot of emotions for everyone, no matter what’s going on in your life.
I’ve come a long way since I ran away to a new life when I packed my car and drove to Seattle four years ago. 21 years ago, my family and I made a similar journey when we moved from Turkey to the U.S.
At 31 years old, I’m finally feeling like I’ve got a good handle on life. I’ve got a solid career path, a group of friends I can finally trust to be there but also know when I need to be alone. I’m in a healthy relationship (we just passed the 9-month mark, what!). Most importantly, my baby brother and his girlfriend are now living in Seattle.
Life is good.
Life is emotional.
It’s the constant struggle, isn’t it – to feel sad even though you’ve got a lot of things right in your life? “Things could be worse,” we tell ourselves. I tell myself that all the time.
I also allow myself to feel the sadness and anxiety that comes up because they are part of who I am. I need to process feelings to understand where they come from, and maybe, help me become a better person.
That’s the beauty of being human. We can feel conflicting feelings all at once, defining who we are at a given moment by choosing to embrace the positive ones as the negative ones run their course.
I know I’m not alone in this.
We feel guilty at this time of year if we personally cannot live up to the standard to be ever-cheerful and happy and joyful. — Dr. Arthur Hayward, Kaiser Permanente
Whether you’re spending your holidays surrounded by family and friends, or not – remember that self-care doesn’t take a holiday. In fact, it’s more important than ever. What you’re going through matters, whether it’s good or sad. I want you to remember that too.
Here are a few tips for practicing self-care this holiday season.
- Give yourself permission. To take a walk. To take a break. To be a bit selfish. To feel happy. To feel anxious. To feel – period.
- Take your time. If you’re going home for the holidays, everything can feel rushed. You have to see everyone. You have to rush from house to house, event to event. Where and when you can, take a breather. Maybe spend a little extra time getting ready. Take the longer route from one house to the other. And yes, cancel on events if you’re feeling overwhelmed. You don’t have to be everywhere, all the time. (I know this applies more to social activities versus family obligations.)
- Hydrate. No, seriously. Water. Don’t forget about it – especially between those glasses of wine at family functions.
- Laugh. Even if it’s through tears sometimes.
- Take a walk. Put on your coat (or light jacket), put away your phone, and take a walk around the neighborhood. Don’t forget to take deep breaths.
- Indulge. Listen to your favorite songs. Put on your favorite holiday movie. Make your favorite treats.
- Give up expectations. Nothing will be perfect. Something will always go wrong. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself (and others) and try to enjoy the moments.
- Breathe. This is the most important one. No matter what, remember to breathe.
What are some ways you get through the holiday blues?
10 thoughts on “Self-Care Doesn’t Take a Holiday”
What a nice list. I’ll be trying a lot of those suggestions! Thank you for sharing them.
What a great post! It’s easy to feel guilty for not feeling all warm and fuzzy all of the time, especially during the holiday season. But it happens to all of us. I love the idea of disconnecting, just one small sentence, “put down your phone” can make a huge difference. Thanks for sharing!
Of course! It’s the little things that make a huge difference. Thanks so much for reading 🙂
Hey! I’m a Seattle girl, too! I’m so glad you mentioned drinking water! I was just talking to my Auntie about how we never grab water at family events and we talk so much that it really dehydrates us!
Heeeey Seattle! 🙂 OMG, water is so important and overlooked. Especially when there’s alcohol involved 😉
Yes to the time thing! I hate feeling rushed, but it seems that’s just how it is most days. I’ve been trying to prepare more ahead of time so that we can take our time and enjoy on special days and not have to rush around.
Jordan | Read. Eat. Repeat.
Preparing ahead of time helps for sure.
The water is so important! Especially with the wine and how dry it is out. Great tip!
Something that really helps me get through the holidays and winter especially is a happy light. I have seasonal depression and turning on the light for 20 minutes in the morning helps my mood a ton!
Shani | Sunshine & Munchkins
Such great advice! Love the idea of taking your time. We really try to space things out, and be really intentional with our time, and it really helps!