About “A Distorted Dream”: The Urge to Cut


My wrist is daring me. It’s too beautiful, without a single scratch in years. I don’t deserve such perfection on my body. It’s taunting me. Just one cut would be enough. 

A single imperfect cut breaking the skin. – “A Distorted Dream and Other Works”

When I first sat down to write what would become my first short story, I didn’t know how it would turn out. It began as a series of blogs, I think it was inspired by a prompt. When I posted the segment that included the above excerpt in the middle, I expected outrage. Confusion, for sure, and concern from my friends. What I didn’t expect were the parents who messaged me in private, telling me that what I shared helped them understand the struggles of their own kids.

When I write, I don’t set out with a goal to inspire. I don’t sit down and think “How controversial can I get and who will give me the biggest reaction?” I just write. I write what goes on in my head, my heart and what’s weighing on my soul. Like I said in my previous post, I write to validate my life.

What you might be wondering, if you’ve already read or are planning to read the full story: Yes, the short story is based on my life. The little girl with the curls at the beginning of the story is me, all the way to the very last sentence. It’s taken me years to overcome what I describe in my story. Understanding my mom’s illness when I was in my late teens was a huge factor in helping me understand that I didn’t deserve the treatment I describe in the flashbacks.

So, the good news is that I haven’t been suicidal since I was a teenager.

Here’s the real reason behind this post, and it may make you uncomfortable.

There have been days in the last couple of years when I had the urge to cut. Before I go on to try to explain why, I want to make it clear that I never did but the urge was still there, under the surface. I don’t think my story is unique nor does it represent other people’s battles. It’s my story. This is my blog and I finally feel comfortable talking about it.

It’s no secret that I get overwhelmed easily. I don’t know if I would call myself an empath but I do strongly feel everything around me, and I’ve spent most of my life unable to make decisions without considering every single consequence in the life of every single party involved in one single decision I would have to make. I spend a lot of my time thinking, being overwhelmed, and trying to regain control of my life. I spent most of my teenage years numb, unable to make sense of my life as it was juxtaposed to the lives of my friends.

When I say that I have the urge to cut, it doesn’t mean that I want to hurt myself. There was a day in the last few months when I felt like my entire life was being violated and I didn’t know where to begin to take back control. I felt unsafe in my own apartment, betrayed and just downright numb – at the same time, I had to get up every morning, go to work and fulfill my duties as a functional adult. In a brief moment when it felt like the world was collapsing around me and I didn’t know where to begin, I felt a phantom sensation on my right wrist.

I knew exactly what it was.

It was my need to regain control of something in my life manifesting itself as the only sensation my brain associated with control from my teenage years.

That sensation, which I describe in detail in my story, is something that made me feel alive because I was becoming numb, teetering on the edge of shutting down completely.

But I didn’t.

I’ve found new ways to cope. I no longer get so overwhelmed that the numbness washes over my entire being. But the days that I come close are the days my brain tries to trick me with that urge.

I’m no longer the lost teenager. Hell, I’m no longer the lost 20-something, spiraling out of control.

I know my place in life.

But once in a while, that urge finds itself to the surface. I used to feel ashamed of it, suppressing it and never talking about it.

These days, if it ever resurfaces, I pause to try to understand why.

Why do I feel that way? What about my life is out of control? What can I do about it, if anything?

And I take deep breaths, ask for help if I need to and continue without a single self-inflicted cut tearing up the fabric of my life.

My Very First EBook: A Distorted Dream and Other Works

In 6th grade, my English teacher opened up an entire new world to me with just a prompt. Our assignment was to write a poem completing each prompt. The first line began with “I am…”

Up until that moment, poetry was  just something I read. I grew up reading “If” by Rudyard Kipling in Turkish, and then in English when we moved to the US, not to mention all of my favorite poems in Turkish. That day in 6th grade, I realized I could also write poems.

Granted, they were crappy poems, but I got better. In high school, I found spoken word poetry, though I never had the guts to do it myself. I went through high school writing ridiculous poems such as “First Kiss” (Because I was in high school when…I had…OK, moving on) and other teenage angst filled poems.

In my late teens and early 20s was when I really got into my poetry and started to branch out as far as stanzas and imagery. Granted, a lot of it was pretty doom and gloom and emo. Then I got a little sassy and you can see my attitude problem coming through the lines.

The last time I wrote a poem was years ago. This past year, I made it a personal goal to get back into poetry and eventually try my hand at spoken word. To do that, I went back and re-read some of my older poems, discovering that while most of them were crap, there are a few that I’d like to share with the world.

A Distorted Dream is the first short story I was ever able to finish, and it took me approximately two years to complete. The poems that follow in the book were selected from all of the poetry that I have kept. These words should give you a little more insight into who I was back then and the demons I had to fight in order to move forward. They’re not all bad, though. A couple of the poems in the second section will show you the hopeful side of me, and the third section?

Well, let that be a surprise.

What happened to the poems that didn’t make it into this book? Well, they’re sitting in a reject pile, ready to be put into a book of their own. If I hit 150 sales with this book, then I will release a free PDF that will include brilliant works such as “Etch-a-Sketch Bitch”.

You can download the PDF version of my very first EBook for $4.99 using the link below.

That’s a cheap price to pay for an intimate look into my soul.

Oh, is this where I mention that the third section is erotica?  (Sex sells or something?)

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