There’s one thing you should know about me: You probably won’t like me.
The odds are, when we meet, your first impression of me will be that I’m either obnoxious (because I like to laugh and I get chatty when I’m nervous) or a bitch (because I get shy and quiet when I’m nervous). Once we make it past the first impression, you’ll give me a shot because I am a nice person.
If we meet over social media, you might find me too chatty because I use my networks to pass on information. If you don’t find me too chatty, you may be offended by my random jokes because I like to laugh. I also like to cheer up the people around me so maybe I’m just trying to brighten up your day.
You probably won’t like me because you’ll think I’m fake. The thing about me is that I don’t always have a filter so if I have been thinking about you, I’ll send you an email just to let you know that. Just because you crossed my mind. Maybe I read a blog of yours that really stood out to me. Maybe we don’t talk all the time but I’ll still let you know that you touched me in some way. The chances are you’ll find me overly nice and assume that I’m being fake. “No one can be that nice.”
When we become friends, you might not like me because I can be a tad flaky when it comes to replying to e-mails. I let the world overwhelm me and want to be there for everyone so I spread myself too thin and then let everyone down. (I’m working on this, I promise.)
When you read this blog, you might not like me because I do my best to stay positive despite life dragging me on my face at times. You may not like me because I try to see the silver lining.
You might not like me because I’m not the typical girl. My best friends are scattered all over the country so I don’t have the luxury of being able to have a girl’s night on a short notice. I don’t have weekly traditions because my best friend is on the other side of the country. I don’t gush over the same things and most of the time, my tolerance for the unnecessary is low. I don’t judge but I can’t participate. I have tried. I’m still trying but I’m about to turn 26 and let me tell you: Finding girlfriends that you bond with in a short period of time is incredibly rare when you’re at this point in your life. There are days it gets me down and I might be depressed for a day or 7. You definitely won’t like me then.
I’m pretty sure you don’t like me right now because when I do blog, I tend to get a little wordy.
Once you realize and accept the fact that you probably won’t like me, it’s up to you to stick to it. There are a lot of people who don’t like me, but the ones who do? They’re the ones who deserve my time so if you don’t like me, do us both a favor.
Don’t bother faking & move on.
“You spend so much of your life basing yourself on what you think other people think of you. Then you realize that maybe one of the purposes of life is not to care.” –Dustin Hoffman
60 thoughts on “You Probably Won’t Like Me”
Nah, I think I’d like you. I think you’d like me, too.
Nanea Hoffman
I think I’d like you too 🙂
Berrak
Um… I still like you in spite of all that. Actually, I think it’s because of all that that I do like you. 🙂 <3
gypsy soul
It’s just because I get the icon love 😉 <3
Berrak
Love love love
Heather Becker
<3
Berrak
Sounds like we have many of the same responses. So far, I like you. 🙂
Wendryn
Ditto 🙂
Berrak
Loved it!
Aposhgirl
Thanks!
Berrak
preach. this is fabulous. 🙂
magnolia
Haha, you said ‘preach’.
I should’ve mentioned that I’m easily amused 😉
Berrak
This is why I have followed you around the net for the last 4 years. Great write!
Lavenderdreems
Thank you!
Berrak
You are my Internet twin sister. Let’s take over the world.
Mominreallife
As long as we do it Mo’Nique style
Berrak
I’m totally flaky when it comes to replying to emails too. Ditto with answering my phone. This was a great post, by the way. 🙂
Hope
Oh, I hate talking on the phone too!
Thanks 🙂
Berrak
pffffft, I’ve never liked you…heheheheheheh
joking, of course!
Cassie
That’s because you loooooooooooove me
Berrak
MAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYBEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
lol
Cassie
Love that Dustin Hoffman quote!
MalnurturedSnay
Ditto 🙂
Berrak
I like you for all these reasons and so many more. This post made me smile. Lots. We are different but the same in so many ways. 🙂
Sarahh812
<3 you woman 🙂
Berrak
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“your first impression of me will be that I’m either obnoxious (because I like to laugh and I get chatty when I’m nervous) or a bitch (because I get shy and quiet when I’m nervous)”
To a T. Love it.
And I’m really liking that comic.
Liebchen
Oops, clarification: that’s *me* to a T. You never came across as obnoxious or bitch to me. I just wanted your energy. 🙂
Liebchen
I don’t know where my energy comes from, or I’d share, haha.
<3
Berrak
<3
Suburban Sweetheart
Ditto.
Berrak
I think I like you just from reading this, if only because you sound just like me! <3
Jenny
<3
Berrak
I feel the same way you do about myself. I often wonder, was I too chatty? Was I too outspoken? Was I too “me” or what did I do wrong? Are we just not mixing because of our differences in personality? Often it’s just life, but because I get lost in my thoughts I forget to plug in to the people around me. And because I am an introvert I forget that people like to be silly, not always intellectual, people don’t overthink as many things as I do.
Mostly, it’s just life and I analyze everything to the point of extinction.
heather bama
I do that too. Not so much when actually interacting but when I make it home.
Berrak
The cardboard joke about killed me. Here’s to laughing over ridiculously lame jokes!
Cari Lyle
It makes me snort.
PS: You’re one of the ppl who probably won’t like me b/c of unreturned emails.
<3
Berrak
I’m notorious amongst my Seattle friends for being terrible at returning e-mails, calls, etc. As you can imagine, I was not well-liked when I lived across the country from them! On the plus side though, I totally don’t hold it against you. 🙂
Cari
Haha, OK, I appreciate that then 🙂 I just felt bad because I didn’t want you to think it was because of the negative news you gave me in your last email.
<3
Berrak
I read this and could totally identify with so much of it in relation to myself. Which makes me pretty sure I would LIKE you… 🙂
Anonymous
🙂
Berrak
i already liked you, and i like you more because you like sinfest 🙂 here’s to not caring about people who don’t want to care about you
michelle
Sinfest is the bomb. <3
Berrak
wordy is hot.
+1 for the cardboard joke
I get the same a lot. I used to be really laid back when first meeting someone and wouldn’t really talk until it was earned. So a lot of people thought I “didn’t like them” and/or that I was mean looking–until they got to know me. It happens. A lot has changed and I’m more open at front, cept now that can be too much for people because 89% of people do not get my humor.
Clevelandpoet
Exactly!
Berrak
Well written! You’re just keeping it real.
Melanie
I try!
Thanks 🙂
Berrak
I’m about to paste an entire paragraph you wrote to tell you how much I relate and how good that feels because I can’t just choose a line or two from it:
“You might not like me because I’m not the typical girl. My best friends are scattered all over the country so I don’t have the luxury of being able to have a girl’s night on a short notice. I don’t have weekly traditions because my best friend is on the other side of the country. I don’t gush over the same things and most of the time, my tolerance for the unnecessary is low. I don’t judge but I can’t participate. I have tried. I’m still trying but I’m about to turn 26 and let me tell you: Finding girlfriends that you bond with in a short period of time is incredibly rare when you’re at this point in your life. There are days it gets me down and I might be depressed for a day or 7. You definitely won’t like me then.”
Oh how much I feel this and understand it. My friends are all over the country and world, and there are days when I read DC blogs and twitter and am inundated with envy for all the women out there on girls nights every night of the week. It feels amazing to know that someone else understands that feeling. And to know someone else also knows just how incredible it feels to HAVE our best friends spread out everywhere. We have someone everywhere we go 🙂
That said, this is incredible. It’s the first time I’ve visited your blog, and I can’t wait to read more. Thanks for writing in a very real, open, honest way. Look forward to hearing more of your story!
-C
C
First of all, HI! 🙂
I have a feeling there are more of us out there…we just don’t voice it as often 😉
Let’s grab coffee darling.
Berrak
Done! Let’s find a time in the next week or two.
C
Uh oh, think I might like you already. 😉 I’m the same way. I definitely do not make the best first impression. Being quiet is sometimes seen as snobby. 🙁
suki
Well, it’s their loss 😉
Berrak
best blog post i’ve read all week 🙂 and as someone who has to read hundreds a day for their job, that says a lot.
also, i’m glad that you said this. I’d be lying if I didn’t say I feel a bunch of these thoughts everyday.
keep it up!
Liz Glomb
Thanks Liz!
Berrak
Hi new Facebook friend…I like you! 🙂
Anonymous
Hi new FB friend, I like you too!
Berrak
Life is too short to be anybody but who you are… you do it and LIKE it. 😀
Cherie
Like you? I think the world of you. I always thought highly of you and your blog and the way you shared your struggles in such a way to help others gain insight, and then we met in person and I thought wow, this is one incredible lady. What I know about you: you’re kind, genuine, caring, selfless, thoughtful, deep, optimistic and smart. What’s not to love? <3
BTW, I'm the same way with being busy — most people who care about our well-being won't mind if we take a while to respond. I still have emails sitting in my inbox from 6 months ago waiting for replies and I thought just the other day maybe I will just file them. I always seem to have an avalanche of correspondence but look, people get busy. There's life to live. They'll know I'm thinking of them sometimes and that'll have to do. 🙂
You go girl, the world is full of good people cheering eachother on. No time for the haters! lol (BTW that top pic with the puffin is hilarious!)
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Loved the ‘card-bored’ joke. I’m very easily amused 🙂
maggie