When I’m talking to my best friend online and she says “Fine” as a reply to something, it immediately makes me wonder if she’s upset.
For the longest time, the word ‘Fine’ as a reply had been associated with “I’m annoyed at/with you and don’t really feel like dealing with you.” (Or something similar). It was tied to a negative feeling.
I know that’s not the case with my best friend (She will tell me when she’s annoyed with me) but that gut wrenching feeling still jumps at me at times. Like yesterday. My heart just sank because I honestly thought she was upset and wasn’t telling me.
I hate that feeling.
We know words are powerful but the way an association can linger for years is amazing.
The way one single word can take us 5 years back, just like a smell can take us back in time to a moment.
Complete with all of the feelings, whether they’re good or bad.
“Fine” is only one of the words that I’ve proactively worked on disassociating with a time in my life. It’s not always easy because if your guard is down, your psyche will jump up and attack you at the most unfortunate moments.
It’s amazing what a single word can do.