Don’t Forget The Present Is A Gift

Am I the only one in disbelief about the fact that December is almost over? 2009 sure has been a whirlwind year for me…I started the year with this blog post:

As I cuddle up in my bed at 2:47 AM on January 1, 2009…There’s only one thing on my mind because see…I spent the first two hours of this year doing one thing. Watching Love Actually. It makes me laugh. It makes me bawl my eyes out crying but I watch it every year…without fail…Always alone. It has the best lessons about temptations…impossible love…young love…unexpected love and life in general.

This movie gives me hope…

So I leave you with this thought for 2009…

“General opinion’s starting to make out that we live in a world of hatred and greed, but I don’t see that. It seems to me that love is everywhere. Often, it’s not particularly dignified or newsworthy, but it’s always there – fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, husbands and wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, old friends. When the planes hit the Twin Towers, as far as I know, none of the phone calls from the people on board were messages of hate or revenge – they were all messages of love. If you look for it, I’ve got a sneaking suspicion… love actually is all around.”

Stay positive in 09 and don’t forget to think about the things you deserve once in a while.

And smile.

And then my life began…

I told you guys my name(s), I finally met LiLu (#best09 new person)*, I made resolutions on my 24th Birthday, I took my first road trip (#best09 trip) and between finally moving out, almost dying, awful first dates, the Pablo weekend, celebrating the one year anniversary of PQ Nation, finally falling in love with the right one, breaking my butt, totaling my car, my first trip to BEANTOWN!hacking my hair off

… and of course, amazing times with the hottest bag of crazy, like stripping at the reef, celebrating the 4th of July, #PB&Tuna (#best09 night out) and random good times in between…

2009 was EPIC (#best09 word or phrase).

And it’s not even over yet.

This past weekend was the first big snowfall of the year and I spent it with the Boy, being totally lazy and cozy.

Last night, I got the best present EVER from my lovely Ginger.

I will be celebrating the end of a whirlwind year and the beginning of one that promises to be even more amazing with some of the people that mean the most to me.

Oh and are you worried about wishing me a Merry Christmas? Don’t be…
December 23rd, 2008

I heard this question…oh, about 5 times today. I get it. People are trying to be considerate because I *am* Muslim and they don’t want to offend…but to me, there’s nothing offensive about someone wishing me a Merry Christmas. It’s the same as Happy Holidays…at least in the US, over the years, that’s what it’s become. I don’t understand why people get so offended over the use of Merry Christmas over Happy Holidays or Happy Holidays instead of Merry Christmas…

Isn’t the whole point just to wish the other person a joyful and peaceful time, whatever it is they celebrate?

At least, that’s what I think. If the intention behind it is pure, why do the words matter? I’m Muslim. Someone wishing me a Merry Christmas does not offend me nor do I feel like I’m being ‘forced’ to celebrate a Christian holiday. As long as you pass on your good wishes, I can choose to celebrate whatever, however I choose. It’s the blessing that counts…isn’t it?

It should be.

To clarify…in Turkey, we celebrate New Year’s. Before we moved to the US, we gave presents to each other for New Year’s Eve…and it usually coincides with a Muslim holiday. When we moved to the US 13 years ago, and my brother was so young, we decided to go ahead and do the tree and presents on Christmas…just so it would be easier for him to adjust to being in *this* society. Did it take anything away from our traditions and culture? Not at all. Did we become ‘Americanized’? Maybe in the social sense but that didn’t change our religion, faith or heritage. Your identity and faith is what you make of it. The words that others use in their greeting doesn’t define you.

You define you so remember that this holiday season. When someone wishes you a Merry Christmas or Happy Holidays in the street, return their blessing with a smile. The world’s gone down the shitter and most people are probably having a bad day…a smile from a stranger might be just the medicine that they need.

Happy Holidays from the PQ Nation to all of you.

*Part of the #best09 Challenge from Gwen Bell

14 thoughts on “Don’t Forget The Present Is A Gift

  1. those people worry b-c they’re sissies!!! I say Merry Christmas to everyone and eff ’em it if offends….hahahahahaha

    2009 has been a little bit better than 2008…I can say that!!!


  2. OMG I have so much to say about this post!!

    I LOOOOVE Love Actually. Hubby and I watch it every year. It is our fav. And I have never not cried while watching the beginning. When he said “…Love IS.. all around” I lose it every time. Makes me teary just thinking of it.

    LOVE the shirt! I want!

    When I sent you your Christmas card, it did occur to me that you were Muslim, but knowing you, not very well, but I just sort of felt like I knew you well enough to know that you would like the card. Because like you said, it’s the idea and the spirit of the holidays that matter. If someone were to say to me “Happy __insert random holiday here__!” and I didn’t celebrate that holiday, I wouldn’t get into this big hubbub of “why didn’t you read my thoughts and know that I didn’t celebrate that!?!?!” So.. hope you liked the card 🙂
    .-= BigMamaCass´s last blog ..*Love* vol 3 =-.


    1. Oh and because apparently I have more to say about this, I just wanted to add:

      I got into this discussion on Facebook a couple weeks ago with a Mormon friend of mine about Christmas. Because I don’t believe in God and she couldn’t fathom why I would celebrate Christmas if I wasn’t celebrating the… wait.. is it his birth? lol just kidding… I actually did know that one. But I still dye Easter eggs on Easter and put up *FAB* Christmas decorations at Christmas. Yes, I am Americanized or whatever but I also look at it this way. Do you really have to “Believe” in something to have a good time and be happy? I think the only thing you need to believe in is having a good time. 🙂

      So that is my 2 cents.
      .-= BigMamaCass´s last blog ..*Love* vol 3 =-.


  3. I’m so guilty of not relating Christmas to religion since I am not religious and have never thought of it that way. I like to just wish people happy thoughts and good wishes, that’s whats behind my “Merry Christmas”

    and I hope you have a fabulous one! 🙂


  4. I love that shirt – I saw it once during a google search and it made my day. Also, love that we’re on the same page about Love Actually. Phenom. And the scene when Hugh Grant dances through his house? Makes me want to dance *every time.*
    .-= Liebchen´s last blog ..A little (early) Christmas cheer =-.


  5. You’re a muslim? I have no idea. ME TOOO! YAY! And I like christmas too, you’re right liking it doesn’t mean it changes you and your faith. Now let’s hold hands and jump up and down, shall we?


  6. I read that he was quite keen do a Home and Away appearence! lmao. Sounds a bit dodgy to me. There’s a part of me that kind of hopes this is not true lol.


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