I learned a lot of lessons during 2010 but the most important one was about competition.
The only person worth competing with is myself.
The only way I can measure success is by defining it myself and then working to live up to and exceed my goals.
Once you start looking around and start measuring yourself against other people, you will lose sight of what’s important.
There are a lot of self-righteous people out there who will make themselves seem important by belittling you. There are a lot of people in your field, the field you want to be in, the career you want, at your work place, in your neighborhood, in your friend circle…
Stop competing with them.
Me? Personally, I haven’t finished my B.A. yet because I gave up my scholarship and worked full-time and have been working towards finishing it for the past 5 years. I haven’t given up, and sure, there were times I felt like crap when my friends around me started graduate school. Then I stopped measuring myself up against them and set my own goals.
What was important to me?
Once you start measuring yourself up against other people in any way, you lose yourself and who you really are. You become a shell of the person you are, shrouded in the shadows of other people.
Life isn’t a dick measuring contest.
There are people I have connected with this year who enlighten me. They are successful in their own right and instead of feeling sorry for myself, I engage them in conversation. I soak up information so I can map out my own success, instead of trying to do exactly what they did.
Life isn’t “one-size fits all.”
That was my big lesson of 2010.
I finally stopped paying attention to other people’s lives and began setting my own goals for my own success.
Today’s prompt: Lesson Learned What was the best thing you learned about yourself this past year? And how will you apply that lesson going forward? (Author: Tara Weaver)