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Get off your pedestal

We ALL do it. Put another person on a pedestal because we think they deserve it. It could be a significant other or someone that we admire for their talents. Why do we put ordinary people on pedestals, giving them an unnecessary ego inflation?

It’s a perfect set-up for disappointment.

In a relationship, we put the other person on a pedestal because we don’t think we deserve them. We let our insecurities take over and created an uneven relationship where we let our life and feelings revolve around what they want. Showing a person that they are special to us is not the same as putting them up on a pedestal. A relationship is about equality and complementing each other…not reducing one person to zero while the other becomes the hero…

It’s not just relationships. I’ve done it with other people in my life who I thought were so much better because they could sing better, or act better or write better. I thought THEIR talents outdid mine and they deserved to be put on a pedestal. What I looked over was the fact that these people are already arrogant enough. Putting them on a pedestal and feeding their ego does nothing good for anyone but them. Besides, why do we do this?

Why do we undermine our abilities?

“Anything you can do, I can do better”

Why don’t we see it this way? We were all given the same brain. If we tapped into just 1/3 of our potential, ALL of us can do great things.

Sure, not everyone can paint…and certainly not everyone can sing…but that doesn’t mean we have to put these people on a higher plane just because they were born with that talent. They could be the greatest singer but they may have the worst character in the world. Why don’t we ever recognize our own potential?

We need to stop setting ourselves up for disappointment by putting undeserving people on pedestals. No one should ever be put on a pedestal because they have one talent…or they pretend like they have a talent. I’m tired of arrogant, no good jackasses making others feel like shit because they are just so full of themselves…and we don’t help by feeding into that ego that’s already huge.

Recognize your own potential.
DO something about it.
You can admire but never raise others up higher than they deserve.
You are just as good as anybody else if you just put your heart and soul into it.

Don’t give anyone else the upper hand on your soul…because the wounds get too deep and we get too jaded too soon.

I want you to tell me ONE thing you wish you could do…or one goal you hope to accomplish in the next 5 years…

Is there something you wish you would’ve done in the past? WHY DIDN’T YOU? Where have all our potential gone?

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  • sorenj November 15, 2008, 4:01 pm

    I will be finishing my first book well within the confines of the next five years… bet on it 🙂

    Fantastic post… gonna go spread it around to my friends now 🙂

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  • Kat November 15, 2008, 4:11 pm

    Excellent post!! Within the next 5 years I will have my nursing degree! I am on the path.

    You could not be more right about what envying another does to your own potential!!

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  • just jen November 15, 2008, 4:24 pm

    This has always been one of my favorites!

    In the next 5 years (okay, make that 2) I will be finishing my psych degree and working towards helping others better their lives professionally, emotionally and spiritually. I will also be moving out of the bay area to either Los Angeles, San Diego (or possibly Virginia Beach)

  • Sebastyne November 15, 2008, 4:39 pm

    Yes, I have done this before, when I thought people don’t lie about their abilities and their virtues. How naive of me! Then when I noticed that some people aren’t as fascinating as they pretend to be, I thought that they just don’t realise it themselves. Then, finally I realised that some people actually make up stuff, whether it is consciously or unconsciously to feed that ego, and I got over the need of putting people on pedestals.

    In five years I will have my bridal fashion design business up and running, and I have at least one seamstress working for me.

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  • Don't Call Me Sir November 15, 2008, 6:03 pm

    I like to make sure there are a couple of pedestals in the room so we can both stand on one. 😉

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  • NotAMeanGirl November 15, 2008, 6:47 pm

    By the time 5 years have past I will have… lost 200-300 lbs… gotten my masters degree in Psychology… and finally made a demo cd of my singing.

    NotAMeanGirl’s last blog post..Dead Duck…

  • Stone Bryson November 15, 2008, 7:48 pm

    Five years? I hope to hell I am into my third published novel by then… 🙂

    Pedestals are a bitch, no doubt. That’s one of the reasons why all the people I admire are dead – they can’t disappoint me…

    I have not doubt YOU will achieve your goals, my friend. You have the talent, and the drive…

    Great post!

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  • wickedcourtni November 15, 2008, 8:07 pm

    hm… 5 years… be picked up by a major publishing company for the sequel of SC.

    and fuck a pedestal.

  • Wovoka November 15, 2008, 8:58 pm

    I may actually begin drawing again in the next five years…

    And maybe you’ll stop hating me. 😉


  • alky November 16, 2008, 12:46 am

    well, i’m about a year away from finishing my first novel. maybe less. in the next five years i hope to find a home for it. it’s been a labor of love.

  • LibraryGrrrl November 16, 2008, 11:05 am

    I guess I’m in the majority here, but I am ALSO hoping to finish/publish my first novel in the next 5 years!

    There are so many things I wish I’d done that I didn’t try for. I think the primary one was about 3 years ago when my art professor encouraged me to apply for transfer to a really good art school. I didn’t do it because I was afraid I wouldn’t get in. Now, 3 years later I’m still kicking myself, because the school I’m at doesn’t have an art major, and I’ve come to realize that’s what I really want to do.

  • Kate November 16, 2008, 6:13 pm

    Many don’t want to stick up to those pompous jackasses (especially women) because they’re afraid of getting ousted from the group or whatever. I really don’t care and I’ll tell a dipshit off the minute I hear one running their mouth. SOMEone has to put them in their place!

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