“How can you tune that out?!”
Yesterday, a friend of mine became witness to my ability tune people out…Even if they’re incredibly loud, 5 feet away from me and talking about me. I can’t explain it but I have the ability to get lost in my own thoughts even when I’m not trying to be…It’s just that, with the way things have been in my life, I’ve had years and years of practice of tuning people out. Of course, this could be problematic when I begin tuning out the conversations that matter.
I love to talk. As if you didn’t know that…What might be surprising is that the way I write is exactly the way I talk…go on…ask anyone that’s talked to me on the phone who reads my blogs…You’d be surprised…
I started thinking about how I might need to be a better listener. I mean, I LISTEN but only if I really know you. When I first meet someone, and we have a 2 hour conversation, I have really selective memory. For the most part, I’m listening but I don’t REMEMBER every detail. This is because I make the assumption that this person probably won’t stick around long enough to matter so why waste my brain energy with their life? I know…it’s so negative but sometimes, it’s true.
I listen to my friends…not only do I listen to them, I make them laugh with my comments…or I’ll bring an inside joke up later, at a time where they have forgotten about it but I know they need to laugh. So I listen. It’s the remembering that’s the problem. I have the attention span of a kitty on crack…Shiny!
When I first met my friend TJ 3 years ago, I knew he was in the AF but I didn’t know he was a bouncer at a club until a couple of weeks later. He, to this day, swears that he told me. I, to this day, swear that he didn’t because I would remember that. More than likely, he’s right. But let’s not tell him that…
This is why I save AIM convos…
So, I’m making a vow to pay more attention to when I first meet people, as opposed to only when they’ve become an important part of my life.
About that. I have the most ridiculous conversations with the people in my life.
Princess: hmmmmmmmmmmm chocolate
Leandra: back away from the chocolate
Princess: But its in mah mouth
Leandra: spit out the calories
Princess: It tasted gooooooooooooooood
Leandra: bad pq
Princess: You say that when I say something else tastes good too
So. Let’s talk about…talking. Inside jokes. Bad listeners. Those who talk obnoxiously. Listening habits. Frustrating convos. Retarded friends…Basically…let’s have fun today…I’m sure I’ll have more ridiculous conversations to quote here later in the day…